Resolution or Intention – what’s the difference?

A Resolution is defined as ‘a firm decision to do or not do something’.  So, if we don’t keep to that decision, we feel like we have failed and yet, 22% of people who make them have given up by now!

If you are one of them, it is easy to think and feel bad about yourself.  This is a normal, but we can choose how we react to it.  Even though feeling like a failure is a very negative response, we can do something about it.    

Most resolutions are made because we feel we ‘should’ be doing something.  We ‘should’ lose weight,  ‘should’ declutter the garage,  ‘should’ quit smoking, rather than something we really want to do, ie we want to feel better, we want to be able to find things easier or we want to be happier. 

Therefore, forcing ourselves to do something we don’t really want to do is just setting ourselves up to fail.  We don’t believe we can really achieve it.  Think about the last time you did something you didn’t really believe in or wasn’t important to you.  Did it go to plan and turn out as you expected? Or was it an epic fail? How does that make you feel?  Where do you feel it in your body, right now? When we focus on negative feelings like failure, the Universe will give us more things to feel negative about, that is the Law of Attraction.

So, why not try setting intentions? 

Intention is defined as ‘a thing intended; an aim or a plan’.  They help us to focus our attention on the process of making positive changes rather than the outcome.  For example:  our resolution might be to lose a stone in weight but as soon as we don’t lose any weight our resolve goes, and we give up.  A more positive approach is to set an intention each day, to eat healthy food, take a walk, drink more water or get more sleep.  That way, we take a small step towards along the path to feeling better about ourselves.  Give yourself a pat on the back instead of berating yourself and notice how that feels.  If you choose to eat unhealthy food, take ownership of it and accept that YOU made that choice and notice how it feels.  From noticing these feelings, you can make choices that feel right for you. 

You can apply this practice to absolutely anything, not just food!  We are all unique, and yet we all have this inner knowing, our gut feeling and we need to learn to trust it.  Once we choose to start thinking positively and making positive intentions, the universe will give us more things to be positive about and we ‘feel’ much more positive and uplifted.

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